choose: my #oneword2014

I have been thinking hard about my one word for 2014, and it’s been a struggle. No, I’m not choosing struggle as a word, and I’ve strongly considered not choosing a #oneword2014 resolution.  I have read a lot of colleagues for whom this really works well, but it just doesn’t totally feel like something that works for me.  Mostly because regardless of which word I consider, what I really end up looking for is a “cheat” – a word that can mean lots of things since I can’t choose just one.  And in writing that, what I realized that my word is staring me right in the face: choose.


I am choosing to commit to me, to remembering that I have a choice (even when, and maybe especially when, it doesn’t feel like I do).  I spent an amazing weekend in October at a workshop designed to help me realize my fullest potential.  The biggest thing I took away from the weekend is how much I control whether or not I am happy.  Even though I have taught students how to reframe their perspectives toward an internal locus of control, it was a great experience to remind how to do that myself.  I have been putting several of the strategies to use since October, but haven’t laid out my goals properly, so instead of writing resolutions (though, in looking at them, you might see “resolutions”), I am writing my plan for choosing to realize my fullest potential and choosing to be the happiest I can possibly be.

As a part of my reflection for this post, what came out of my workshop, and some awesome conversations with my coach/mentor, I’ve been thinking a lot about gratitude and playing big lately.  My coach asked: what have you convinced yourself you can’t get, so you’ve stopped wanting it. I went back to two posts I wrote well over a year ago when I started Tara Mohr’s 10 rules for playing big (here and here). I never got past number two because I didn’t feel like there was anything I could do – I puttered out because I didn’t think my big goals were achievable. I could certainly ponder what those absolutely huge moments of playing big looked like, but they involved quitting my job and that didn’t seem like such a good plan. Beyond that, I truly couldn’t think of what it would look like for me to truly do anything gasp-worthy because I’m just a little too logical and practical, it turns out. As much as I’m an idealist (per my INFJ), it seems that only applies when thinking about the world and other people. When considering my own future, I am very, very much a realist.  Is this about my gender? Can I learn to do this (play big – dream big)? What would that even look like?  Luckily, I got some great practice at my workshop and I have an amazing cast of supporting characters in my life.  Most of all, I know that I can choose to play big, dream big, and achieve my dreams.  I will choose to spend my time intentionally and nurture the things in my life that make me happy.

Here’s what I’m going to choose as 2014 unfolds:

Physical Wellness

  • Run 500 miles in 2014 (with help of Nike+ app & challenges, support of #safit community, support of hubby, and my race training)
  • Earn a PR (2 hours 45 minutes or faster) at my half marathon on March 15th (Twin Cities Get Lucky Half)
  • Complete my half training plan (which includes more miles and more interval training than previous training plans)
  • Run a 5K in less than 30 minutes
  • Walk 10,000 steps a day and be active for at least 15 minutes a day
  • Be active for at least 30 minutes at least three times a week
  • Incorporate additional cross-training and strength-training into my fitness routine
  • Track my food and activity daily on Weight Watchers; stay within my weekly points (not using my extra 49 – activity only – when possible)
  • Not eat after 8 pm (a BIG habit change!)
  • Engage consistently in #safit – support others in their wellness journey (and include pieces of my wellness journey outside physical fitness to broaden the conversation)

Mental Wellness

  • Read #52in52
  • Meditate at least three times per week
  • Unplug in the evenings – limit screen time prior to going to bed
  • Get 8 hours of sleep each night with limited restlessness
  • Reevaluate my anxiety medications and my continued need for them (with a doctor’s support)
  • Blog once per month to further engage in reflection and self-awareness
  • Read / reread the book from my workshop and complete more of the activities to keep me on track for what I want

Professional Wellness

  • Develop a learning plan for #ACPA14 and be intentional about sessions and experiences
  • Review my professional commitments and make sure I am engaging in ways that align with my personal and professional goals
  • Intentionally engage in a job search for a position that aligns with my values and goals
  • Choose my attitude
  • Take a photoshop course or put together my own syllabus of free online learning
  • Book 5 paying photo sessions
  • Try the bullet journal concept
  • Learn to maximize short times in my office

Financial Wellness

  • Refrain from putting any purchases on a credit card (going into debt)
  • Follow our debt-free in three year plan
  • Save money toward a full-frame camera (Sony a99)

Relationship Wellness

  • Choose happiness 🙂
  • Spend intentional time every day connecting with my husband
  • Connect with friends and family more often (letters, phone calls, gchats, etc.)
  • Practice showing others my gratitude (notes, thank you cards, recognition, etc.)
  • Engage in screen-free time with Laney (play, training, etc.)

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